Tuesday, September 8, 2015

Am I Really An Adult?

I was stuck in traffic the other day and I was singing along to the 90s on 9 (thanks free XM) when I looked next to me and a lady was dancing right along with me. She looked about my age but was driving a mini van and had about three kids in the car. Instantly I stopped. She looked just like me, how is she so much more of an adult!?

Then I really thought about it, when did I become an adult? I'm not ready to be an adult! I don't feel like an adult. What does an adult feel like!? 

Sure, I'm 28 years old. I'm married, own a car and house, have lived through a complete home remodel, pay for my own vacations, but yet I still don't feel like an adult. I still buy stupid stuff I don't need, not as much but some. I go on random road trips because I can, and I can drink with the best of them on a Wednesday night! I have been taking care of myself since I was 18 years old. I have never paid a cent in credit card interest, I have about a year left to pay on my car and I am a mere $15,000 away from paying off college! I have been doing what I have always done. Nothing is new! 

Of course I asked Joe if he felt like an adult. He said he finally felt like an adult when he hit 30 (in April). Alright, I get it, but I'm only two years away from that! I told him I don't think I feel like an adult because I don't look my age. 

Yeah, he's an adult...

I get carded all the time. When I'm at local races, I have people ask me what college I run for. During my track workouts last summer, I had the track coach ask me if I was coming out for the team next year. When I told him I graduated high school 10 years ago I thought he was going to laugh at me. 

Maybe I don't feel like an adult because I don't feel like my job is really important. Sure, I keep people from jumping off the deep end over stupid shit, but am I really changing the world, no. Right now, that's okay! I have no idea what I want to do when I grow up. I just want to help people, and I guess I am technically doing that. 

Some of my friends have crazy important/fancy jobs, maybe they feel more like adults because of that. Of course I asked Carrie this question during our 16 miler on Sunday. She is a 26 year old engineer and she doesn't feel like an adult either. At least I'm not alone. 

So much adulting happening!

Me and my husband aren't the "get all dressed up for a fancy night out on the town" kind of people. We would much prefer to grab a few drinks with friends and watch the game. We don't spend a lot of money on fancy grown up things. 

This is my life, not an adult.

So I am back to my original question, when do I start feeling like an adult? Is it like puberty where one day you wake up and BAM! Who knows for sure, but for the time being, I will rock out to the 90s on 9 with mini van lady while sitting in traffic. 

When did you start feeling like an adult? Or are you more like me and just waiting for it to happen?


  1. I feel the same way! Even though I'm a really independent person and moved out on my own right after I graduated college, I still feel like a little kid at heart. Maybe I'll feel more adult when I actually have a house. I think it does have to do with what you mentioned about jobs...even though when I explain my job and talk about it, it seems special and important, but to me I feel like I'm not in a real "career" yet or something that I want to be doing for the next 30+ years. It's always good to know you're not alone in feeling like this, and I think it's good you aren't too serious or "adult" yet! I always tell Dan that I hope we never lose that sense of fun and acting like kids..it's nice!

  2. Agreed. I look 16 most days, always get carded, or asked about going to prom (at the nail salon). I work a full time fancy sounding job that's dull at best. I pay my own bills, house, car, etc but I just never felt like I matured. I thought there would be a transformation but some days I shop just to buy something or drink too much. Maybe we become adults when we have kids?

  3. Great post! Two years ago we had a neighborhood party and one of the women asked me if I was going to be a senior that year at the high school I said, no, I own the house next door! I take it as a compliment. I like to think of us as 'young spirits' that don't allow ourselves to get too jaded by the world. I think, I started to feel somewhat like an adult when I had to pay for everything and owned no furniture and had to sleep on an air mattress.

    I say keep it up! You're obviously doing something right. :)

  4. I'm a 24 year old engineer and I definitely don't feel like an adult! I still drink with the best of them, stay up late and play video games and pretend that I'm in college (okay, not as much anymore).
    But being married, owning a house, having a full time salaried job and having to pay all my loans really does make me feel like an adult! That's for sure.

  5. Steph I am 36 and still don't act like an adult.. Like you I am married, own a car and house, can drink with the best any day of the week. Here is the thing I am happy with the way I act and feel. I know some adults that have it all and forgot what living is all about. As long as you are happy in life you don't need to feel like an adult

  6. Haha! I'm 52 and there are lots of days I don't feel like an adult. Seriously. I'm the mom of 2 teenagers, I'm a nurse practitioner, but I'm as goofy as they come. I might be this way because life is so hard and so serious. I guess I don't know how to adult.